Debra J.M Smith -- Informing Christians
 Wife - Mom - Grandma (Nanna) - Child of God
 "Marvel not that I said, Ye must be born again."

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                     The Confessions of a Control Freak 

Growing up, I had to deal with an angry and controlling family. I became hypervigilant and a control freak over myself. 

Angry controlling people seek to control by being mean to some and overly favoring others; scapegoats and golden-ones. 

Control freaks try to control people who hurt them, by trying to fix those people. They try to reason with them and to appease them, and can be overly nice, in hopes of gaining kindness.

Being a control freak, in control of your own life is a good thing. However, the problem comes when trying to get a person to stop hurting you. It is better to simply adjust your boundaries with that person and maybe let it be known, you don't like what happened.

There is no way to reason with or to appease unreasonable people with misplaced anger, for which they do not take responsibility. Scripture speaks on anger in three very specific ways. Search it: Be slow to anger. Don't sin in your anger. Don't let the sun go down on your anger. Today, I only seek to fix me, to take care of my health and happiness, which go hand-in-hand.
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 We've Only Just Begun

We were in our early twenties in 1983, when we married on the first day of Spring, at 3:00, in a little upstate New York church. I remember it all well. I was a princess. He was my prince. We even sang together at our reception. Our honeymoon was perfect.

But when the honeymoon was over, the fighting began. We were like most every other couple. We would love like crazy, but we would also fight like crazy. Things did, however, change. They had to change. We became old people, seniors, over-the-hill, next in line to go. 

We enjoyed raising two kids. Then came the empty-nest and letting go, him first, then me. Once I too, fully let go, it was like a door opened, and it was a beautiful sunny day outside. And my husband was out there waiting for me. It was just the two of us again.

He still gets up, goes to work every day, and comes home to me and a clean home, etc. He likes to pitter, garden, and watch TV. I like my hobbies, music, and many cookbooks. Together, we like a nice dinner and a couple games of backgammon and catching up a bit. Our sweetest times can be watching an old sitcom on the couch with our dog, Coti there.

We were two individuals who came together to be one entity. We did not lose our identities, nor did either of us morph into the other. We stumbled till we learned to respect our other half. Our young love grew into a mature love over many years. It was and is work. But we made it. Our goal is to enjoy today and dream of tomorrow. In so many ways, we've only just begun.

Our God Reigns!
Rejoice & Be Glad!

The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the strength of my life;
of whom shall I be afraid?
 
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Joshua 1:9 (KJV) “Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage;
be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” --God 

Psalms 31:24 KJV  “Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the LORD.”

Micah 6:8 KJV "He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee,
but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God

Psalm 34:19 Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all.

"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." --Proverbs 3:5-6

USA Citizenship - 14th Amendment

Jesus Is Lord

I Am An Evangelical Protestant

Poetry And Quotes

True Christians Can't Walk Away

Science & The Christian

Freedom - Our Basic Human Right
 
The Unborn Baby 

Ephesians 5 - Reproving

Don't Hang With The Wicked

Estranged -- Parents Passed

Psalms 37 - Fret Not Over Evil

Salvation & The Church
 
1 Thessalonians 4 - Dead In Christ

Romans 13 - Leaders

 Framework of The Constitution

     The ACLU And The UUC

      9/11 Flight 93 Disgrace

Sexuality & Marriage - Straight Talk

Blogger Bullies

Finding Happiness

Home Schooling

BTR - Long Ago Lesson   

AOL - What Started It All 

My David Cassidy Encounter

Tricia Erickson Ex-Mormon

David Reagan Lamb & Lion Ministries

Joseph Chambers Paw Creek Ministries

Peter LaBarbera AFTAH 

My Activism Story

But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus,
after that ye haved suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you." --1 Peter 5:10

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"And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ." Colossians 3:23-24

"And therefore will the LORD wait, that he may be gracious unto you, and therefore will he be exalted,
that he may have mercy upon you: for the LORD is a God of judgment: blessed are all they that wait for him." Isaiah 30:18 

  "But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles;
they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31

 

Eagle By: My WWI Vet Grandpa_

"The world says we have a right to be angry, when wronged. 
But what we have a right to, is the right to be happy." --djms

"We cannot be so caught up in what is no longer, that we miss a new beginning." --djms

"A peaceful heart is worth more than getting even." --djms

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